I lost a friend today. 
A sad loss, but not by death... 
By judgement. 

Last night a friend told me that they believe the character of a person is fixed. 
That as children our character becomes the all of who we are, and as we age, no matter what the circumstances, we can't become anything different than who we learned to be in the childhood years. 

The parents who raised us imprinted their thoughts and values on us, developing our character. The environment we lived in imprinted on us...and these imprints also contributed to our character. 

My friend told me this is fixed. No willingness to change, no redemption from God. 

No hard work, no desire.. can make a cheater not a cheater, a person raised in an abusive home, will always be an abuser, a child of addicts, is destined to become an addict. 

My friend said that they believe absolutely in God, Jesús Christ and the Holy Ghost.  

But not in change. 

Why did Jesús suffer in the garden of Gesthemene, if not to take on the sins of the world...so that all who err, who make mistakes, all who want to live a better, happy, honest life, can have that opportunity?  

With such judgements...with the sins of our parents and the home in which we were born imposed upon us...no wonder the world is in such crisis. The plan of Salvation has been forgotten, even by self proclaimed believers.

I believe in Free Will. I believe that ANYONE who wants to change CAN change. 

I believe I am not my parents, or the people who raised me. 

I am not my childhood enviroment. 

I am not the girl who was bullied in school. 

I am not the wild teenager who lived in the streets. 

I am not the young adult who messed up. 

Im not the grown up who had a tantrum when she was cheated on or lied to. 

I am me.

Jacqueline.

I am now, and tomorrow, whoever I want to be.  

I believe Everyone...EVERYONE...can be better, happier, more honest, more kind, more loving, more generous, and more forgiving.  Who we are is a choice

...whatever you were yesterday, you can wake up today and choose to be whatever you want....and if that's kinder and more mindful of others...cool. 

Jesús came not for the pious saints...he came for all the sinners...the flawed, the imperfect, the perfectly trying. 

Never let anyone judge you because of your past.  

You are, whoever you want to be. 

If you ask, all of the sins of yesterday are gone. This is God's promise, through the attonement of Jesús Christ....we are all renewed....if WE WANT TO BE. 

Your CHARACTER is not fixed. 

Goodness and love, heal and renew. 

People come and go in our lives. 

Savour the positive moments. 

Let go of anyone who doesn't believe in you, and in the Power of Change.

Love changes everything.

- Jacqueline Lovely Perras

This article is copied ver batem - this articled appeared on Friday, February 28th, 2020 circulating on Gscebook media. 

‘She was part of us’: Niagara music scene will miss photographer Kandy Burns 

WHATSON 08:58 AM by John Law The Niagara Falls Review 

Kandy Burns, a fixture of the Niagara music scene, died in her sleep Tuesday. - Facebook , Special to Torstar 

No matter how diverse Niagara's music scene, it always had one thing in common: Kandy Burns would take your picture. 

No matter the gig, no matter the band, she was a constant presence. A country show one night, heavy metal the next. It seemed every Niagara band and singer had a Kandy Burns photo on their Facebook page. 

This week, those same artists are flooding their social media with tributes to Burns, who died in her sleep Tuesday night. 

"She was part of us, part of our scene," says Niagara musician John Donald. "That's what made her love it so much. Not only was she included, she was very well respected." 

It was a labour of love for St. Catharines resident Burns, who photographed the Niagara scene for nearly two decades. The wife of a truck driver, George, she constantly championed local artists not just with her photos, but through the local online music site indie-rocks.ca. She would often post the daily playlist, spotlighting Niagara bands. 

Donald says Burns was a "closet musician" who became entrenched in the local scene. 

"She was one of us," he says. "Not above or below, but one of us. Always supportive, always a happy person. I never heard her complain ever." 

Local music promoter Jill Lunn says Burns was a "tough cookie" everyone in Niagara's music scene admired. Getting photographed by her was considered an honour. 

"She captured people's true selves doing what they loved an what made them passionate," she says. "A quiet impact, but it was massive, true and lasting upon the Niagara music scene. She will be missed by so many." 

"Kandy was one of the first people to play me on the radio," added local singer Jess Wilson. "And she got one of my favourite shots of me ever. 

"It's going to be weird not having her around because she was such an amazing person." 

Mike Richards, singer for Niagara band Eklectik, says Burns had an "unparalleled" love for local indie music and the people who made it. 

"She supported them without question, she would travel great lengths with the loving support of George just to surprise a band she was close with," he says. "She was amazing at what he did, and without ego. 

"She will be missed by many, but to a select few there is a hole in our hearts that cannot be filled." 

Local music buff Lisa Dawn Bitter-Smith says Burns' charitable spirit equalled her love of music. She recently picked up two bags full of clothing from her to be donated to local homeless shelters. It was the last time she saw her. 

"I hope they have a huge venue for a celebration of her life because I imagine that place will be rocking with Kandy fans," she says. "She was everywhere in the music scene and made her mark, to be remembered fondly." 

While Burns had been struggling with her health recently – only her close friends knew - her sudden death Tuesday left the local scene in shock. 

"It was very sudden and unexpected," says Donald. "There's going to be a huge void left in music because she was prolific. 

"She would go to Niagara Falls, Welland, St. Catharines, Beamsville, Stevensville, she'd go all over the place to see local bands. To cover them, take pictures, and to hang out with their friends. Or make new friends. 

"She loved music, but she was also about the people too." 

A few months ago, I was involved in some social activity that led to me being bullied by my peers. I have always been bubbly and outgoing....for me every performance is important; whether it is a jam night, or full tilt theatrical concert, I always strive to do my best. I work hard networking and having fun, making the most of any event. I see every opportunity that presents itself as a way to promote myself as an original Indie artist; expanding my followers, listeners and fans.  

After some unfortunate events where a few ladies decided that it would be fun to humiliate me publicly by mocking me, threatening violence, and gossiping about me to the point where I no longer felt comfortable in public, I withdrew from friends and public events where I could be put into situations that could become disruptive or negative. I am not one to back down when challenged, but for me, withdrawing seemed the easiest way to slow down the waves of gossip and bad feelings that appeared to be fuelled by my presence.  

During this time, another girlfriend of mine, Roxy Luciani, had been very hurt by a good friend who made some derogatory comments about her current lifestyle. Hurt by the statememts, and the subsequent gossip that circulated, she reached out to me for support, knowing about what had just happened to me.  

We talked openly about our feelings and supported each through the incidents. After a lively discussion, we decided to move forward with love and forgiveness. Wherever possible we would try and repair the broken relationships, and forgive others who had hurt us.  

As it happens, Roxy also works in the entertainment industry and had been recently approached by a film writer who was looking for a dynamic female vocalist to write an original song for her new film. Because we had been supporting each other through some difficult moments, I was fresh in her mind when she was approached with the inquiry. Roxy immediately passed my name along to writer/director/actor, Gloria Yasdani.  

Gloria and I are now collaborating on original music for her film, "Flames of Fury", currently filming in Toronto. Not only is it a thrill to be writing music for the film, but three days ago, Gloria approached me about using my song, "Woman", currently in production for my second album, "The Quickening", in the film as well. Additionally, she has asked if I would appear in the film and sing my song, "Woman" at the Black Tie Party Scene shooting July 18th. The filming will include clips that will be integrated with scenes from the movie to become a video single for the song "Woman", which because of its involvement in the film, is now planned for pre-album release in partnership with the movie premier in 2019. Roxy is also appearing in the film. She will be part of the scene for Black Tie event July 18, and I look forward to celebrating with her this win for love.  

Women supporting woman, reaching out, and caring about each other, led to my involvement in the upcoming feature-length film, "Flames of Fury". For me this is a testimony of the power of kindness and love. Although Roxy and I both experienced negative social interactions, we supported each other, and in that support a wonderful opportunity opened up for me and for Roxy. Had we not been bullied by our peers and supported each other through the upset and healing, we would not have been appearing in the movie, I would not be singing in the movie, my music would not have been considered for inclusion in the soundtrack, and I never would have met the very talented and wonderfully brave, Gloria Yasdani.  

So just remember folks, sometimes things happen, and we get hurt or confused. But the outcome of any incident is in our hands. If you adopt an attitude of growth and learning in all of life's experiences and search for those silver linings, sometimes what seems like a negative, can be turned into a positive.....and great blessings will be enjoyed.  

Go forward with love. Holding on to negative feelings about situations or gossip you can't control, only brings you sadness. Forgive and move forward. Life doesn't always make sense. Just be the example of what you want to see in others. When we create love, we are surrounded by love.  

         - Jacqueline Lovely Perras 

               WARRIOR OF TRUTH  

                  July 11th, 2018

Blog photo: Tracy Cory Mead